Introducing Sex toys specifically Realistic Vibrators into your sexual relationship can be tricky. There are a lot of myths around vibrators when it comes to using them as a couple or even more multiple partners. You may come across people who are miss informed about the role they play within sex.

The biggest myth is that Vibrators especially Realistic Vibrators are to replace having a sexual partner who owns a penis. Well this is completely untrue vibrators are there to enhance the experience and offer a unique experience that a penis often could not provide, phalluses don’t vibrate whereas a vibrator does this provides heightened stimulation for the woman/vagina owner. That does not mean the vibrator replaces a penis because they offer two different types of stimulation I have owned various realistic dildo/vibrators over the years and not even my most realistic dual density ones feel like penetrative sex.

Another myth is that Vibrators are for lonely women who are single and aren’t engaging in penetrative sex or any sex for that matter. Vibrators can be used by anyone! Including those who are in a monogamous relationship.

If you enjoy using vibrators but are un sure on how to tell your partner or bring them into your bedroom antics I would recommend sitting down with your partner and explaining the stimulation you like/want from a vibrator/Realistic Vibrator and how this differs from the stimulation you get during penetrative sex. If you are anxious to talk about what you want, don’t be. I know that is easier said than done but the odds are, if you don’t ask you don’t get. It is also your right to be happy and liberated including during sex. It is not shameful at all to tell someone you use sex toys, using a vibrator is incredibly common and should not be frowned upon don’t feel ashamed for owning your body and exploring your needs. If you are new to vibrators and are unsure which would suit your needs check out this guide.

I also recommend maybe going to a store or sopping online together for a new vibrator that way you both are involved in the process. I also think it may be useful to show your partner how you use your vibrator as well as being erotic it can also be a way of you both figuring out how to use them together. Maybe get your partner to use it on you whilst you guide their hand this will help them get used to how you like to be stimulated, different strokes for different folks and all that!

Vibrators can enhance your sexual relationship so it’s worth exploring new experiences with your sexual partner as long as it is consensual on all parts. You can use vibrators to warm up before penetrative sex which encourages blood flow and arousal to the genitals. A great way of doing this is to use a clitoral vibrator which is small enough to be used during penetrative sex and will not get in the way.

Vibrators can also be used for foreplay. Using a wand style vibrator to massage your partners back, legs and thighs can be a very erotic experience it also relaxes your partner. You can take turns using the wand to massage each other this will give you both time to relax and become aroused before penetrative sex, you can also use the wand on the clitoris to achieve clitoral orgasm during penetrative sex.

Vibrators have come a long way from the Realistic Vibrators available on the market. They now come in all shapes and sizes and there are even ones that are designed to be used by M/F couples during penetrative sex.

Top 3 Vibrators I recommend for couples

I have tried many couples’ vibrators over the years of my blogging and one of my favourites is the Lelo Tiani 2 – I have the 24K version but the Tiani 2 is a cheaper version and doesn’t have the gold detailing but still works exactly the same. It can be controlled by a remote and even has a sense motion mode which allows the vibrator to vibrate depending on how fast you shake the remote. The Tiani 2 is inserted into the vagina prior to penetrative sex you then keep it inserted whilst you have penetrative sex. The clitoral arm provides you with clitoral stimulation whilst also being comfortable and discreet during use. This is available in two colours Black and Purple.

Another favourite of mine is the Rocks Off Touch of Velvet – this is a slim line small bullet vibrator to be used clitorally, it is incredible small and easily fits between two bodies during sex. It’s also very affordable and the design/ colour is not intimidating. This comes in three Colour ways Teal, Lilac and Pink.

I really do recommend using a wand as it is also great for easing aches and pains and is a very versatile vibrator. My Favourite is the Doxy – this can be used to massage all over your body and has a broad head to stimulate a larger surface area. You can use it along your back and erogenous zones to tease a partner in foreplay and use it to achieve orgasm when you are warmed up and ready. The Doxy can be purchased in: Pink, Purple,Black,White and black with various models and finishes also available.

I do hope however you decide to introduce Vibrators into your sex life that you find what works for you and I hope you enjoy your sex life to the fullest!