The bad rap about using sex toys is already a thing in the past. Using sex toys nowadays has become rampant and undeniably getting popular. Unfortunately, not everyone is still using it. Some couples are still hesitant in associating sex toys during love nights, while single individuals still have odd feelings even by looking at it.
We understand that using sex toys such as dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and other types of it are still not a welcome thought to many. However, there are still some individuals who are interested in getting to know them. They might be a beginner now, but eventually, they will learn to beat the fear of using it and love it.
To help you out in beating the fear of using sex toys, in this case, dildos, we will guide you on how you can effectively beat the fear and fall in love with this amazing sex toy.
Set The Mood
Trying a dildo for the first time is very intimidating. You’re getting to know this foreign item, study it, and look at it intently. Yes, it looks similar and familiar to you, but the feeling made by a different material is what probably scares you. So, to beat this fear, you can start by setting the mood in your room.
You can close the blinds, cover the windows, turn the room into something dreamy, or turn on the bedside lamp to make it more cozy and intimate. If you’re doing it alone for the first time, you can watch your favorite porn videos to turn you on a little bit. But if you’re doing it with a partner, you can start slow in foreplay to set your mood accordingly. Turning steamy and intimate music can help as well.
Warm Up First
Now that you have set up the mood in your room, you can start doing something to warm your body. Do things such as watching porn videos while slowly masturbating yourself. If you’re already acquainted with your body, masturbating, when done right, can set your mood right away.
Do it gently and slowly. Dwelling on it too much might throw you off using the dildo, so keep going with the manual stimulation. Do it just enough to warm your body and to welcome a new foreign object to enter you. You can tell when your body is ready as the tension will rise.
Lubricant All the Way!
When using sex toys, nothing is more important than having a lubricant with you. When two people engage in sex, human bodies normally secrete natural lubricant, which maintains the intimacy and lessen the friction between the sex organs. However, when using sex toys, dildos don’t have it. That’s why it’s essential to use a lubricant.
Using a lubricant with your dildo can make a big difference. It helps things go a little smoother. It can prevent tearing or fissures in the vagina or anus, and somehow, prevents feelings of discomfort.
Choose the Right Size
Dildos come in various sizes. That’s a fact. That means you have all the options to choose from on what size your dildo should be. Small-sized dildos are about 5 inches or less, while the regular-sized are about 6 inches in length.
If you want to be daring, large size dildos are measured for about 6-8 inches. You can find different sizes of dildos online. You can also comfortably and conveniently choose one and have it delivered right to your doorsteps.
However, it’s best to remember that choosing the right size of your dildo does matter, especially when you’re new in this area. Large dildos might be so overwhelming, so we suggest starting small and working your way up. Dildos are fun to use, but you might find yourself in an awkward situation when you already have it on hand. So, to avoid that from happening, start small first. You can easily get used to it eventually.
Pick What Places You Want It To Go
This is something fascinating about using dildos- you can pick where you exactly want it to go. Dildos are flexible. They can be used for either anal penetration or vaginal penetration. Picking the area where you want to use the dildo somehow affects choosing the size of it.
If you want to use it for anal play, we still suggest starting small on this one. This is to prevent overwhelming you with the experience. Also, pick a dildo with a base (flared base). The one with a protrusion that stops the toy from slipping inside your anus. We know it’s scary, but it does happen sometimes.
And if you want to use it for vaginal penetration, you can choose a dildo with unusual bumps and ridges, the same kind with condoms that are dotted. This will give you extra stimulation and raise the tension so you can reach your orgasm.
Go Solo Or With A Partner
Some couples and individuals share the same experience. Using dildos for the first time alone or with a partner is fun and exciting, yet scary and awkward. Whether you’re alone or have someone to use a dildo with for the first time, it’s best to first understand the sex toy. Read about it, research the product, and understand how it can affect your body and your relationship.
If you’re planning to buy it from a store, do some research first about the store. Do they provide quality sex toy products? This is very important as you don’t want to use low-quality sex toys.
Remember that it goes inside your body, so it pays to be extra careful in buying it. And lastly, always make sure to wash and clean your sex toys before and after using it. The fun ends when you start to acquire health problems that originate from a dirty dildo.
Takeaway
The popularity of sex toys is increasing. More individuals and couples are turning their interest in associating it with their sexual lifestyle. However, with this growing interest, there are still some who find it odd and scary.
However, the awkward feeling of using a dildo only happens during the first try. With the right guidance and help, you can beat the fear of using it and maybe even love it. There are steps to get yourself engaged and ready so that you can fully introduce yourself to using sex toys. Just remember to read about it, understand, and get yourself ready before anything else.
Author’s bio:
Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. She was raised in a strict, Christian home, but has since found more peace with a more spiritual approach to life and health. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife… with a wild side. In her free time, she loves to spend time at the beach with her family, host parties and BBQ’s, and work outside in one of her many flower gardens.
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